gyan...
being in IT industry, i realize that thinking power of individuals has increased a lot... ofcourse, i don't know how it works in other industry - meaning i might be totally wrong about IT professionals and their power to think more... however, with emails and the dynamism of the industry i tend to think - and i've all rights to do so - that an IT professional does more thinking than his counterparts of other industry - including medicine.
With so many mails on how to relax+how to enjoy+what are friends+what is family, i still think that IT job is more demanding that other - medicine, probably is an exception!!! I've always been getting numerous mails on 'how to..', 'what are..' philosophy but one that i always will remember is the bucket philosophy. blame my weak memory that i don't remember from where i got the bucket funda - nevertheless i credit the inventor for such an easy-to-remember point...
today, again, i did remember the funda, however, this time i 'enlightened' someone else (rather, the closest person to me!!!) with the insights... nowadays, she is going through a demanding time... times when she has to balance her life - professionally and personally. personally - sasar and maher. sasar - husband and in-laws... (well, some other time what a newly wedded wife - arranged married to another IT professional goes through in a joint family!!!). At times a sincere person would get confused on whats right and whats not! whats priority and whats not... whats to be heeded to and whats shouldn't be! whom to take on face value and whom not to... and the world just acts a confused mess... and that is the time when some philosophy like this helps!!! here is the funda of buckets...
Since an individual has many things to deal with - many people to interact with - many relationships to take care of - many incidents to remember - many occassions to cherish and many of such many things... the whole point is to compartmentalize EVERYTHING. like office and home, there should be something like a switch - switch off office and switch on home and vice-versa... not possible though! so, what we tend to do it carry the heavy luggage of expectations and frustration of either places with us everywhere and everytime... can't we just say - forget it, i'm going to relax and not think a bit about 'this thing' or 'that thing'... difficult, ain't it? actually not!!! u just need to define buckets for everything. say, office is a bucket. when i come home, i just close the office bucket... meaning i tell myself not to think about it esp when it doesn't make sense to. If i keep thinking about office when i'm talking to wifo or family - do u think i would have the same emotions that they are expecting? no!!! so, i say goodbye office and home sweet home... relax and enjoy! and i'm better prepared to take on activities of home with full zeal... where it helps to have buckets for places, it helps more to have buckets for past unfortunate incidents and people... everyone goes through a rough patch in life - relatively speaking. everyone comes across 'repulsive' people which they would never ever talk to or interact with, given a choice. what we tend to do is have such incidents and people at the back of our mind... we don't realize that they are there - permanent residents in our mind and brain. and many of our actions and behavior is influenced by them... and we absolutely don't realize that!!! and if we are doing such things we are doing injustice to our present... i know, it sounds a littel absurd, but its true!!! it would be very easy for me to say that keep such events and people in their respective buckets and close them... and you would say 'boss, thats impossible'... but it really really helps... its all about making your mind and brain realize not to think about them anymore - unless i open the bucket!!! i'm not a psychology student or any maha-pundit, however, if you say one thing 10 times, u start to believe in it... having buckets is just another way to tell ourselves that - i do know but i do not require it - maybe now, maybe ever!!!
phew! its been a lil boring this time - cause i decided to write on buckets... most probably i would change the language later when the time is right!!!!
ask me more on buckets and i may not be able to help... as u urself need to understand what works best for you!!! :)
enjoy and take care!
-VK
With so many mails on how to relax+how to enjoy+what are friends+what is family, i still think that IT job is more demanding that other - medicine, probably is an exception!!! I've always been getting numerous mails on 'how to..', 'what are..' philosophy but one that i always will remember is the bucket philosophy. blame my weak memory that i don't remember from where i got the bucket funda - nevertheless i credit the inventor for such an easy-to-remember point...
today, again, i did remember the funda, however, this time i 'enlightened' someone else (rather, the closest person to me!!!) with the insights... nowadays, she is going through a demanding time... times when she has to balance her life - professionally and personally. personally - sasar and maher. sasar - husband and in-laws... (well, some other time what a newly wedded wife - arranged married to another IT professional goes through in a joint family!!!). At times a sincere person would get confused on whats right and whats not! whats priority and whats not... whats to be heeded to and whats shouldn't be! whom to take on face value and whom not to... and the world just acts a confused mess... and that is the time when some philosophy like this helps!!! here is the funda of buckets...
Since an individual has many things to deal with - many people to interact with - many relationships to take care of - many incidents to remember - many occassions to cherish and many of such many things... the whole point is to compartmentalize EVERYTHING. like office and home, there should be something like a switch - switch off office and switch on home and vice-versa... not possible though! so, what we tend to do it carry the heavy luggage of expectations and frustration of either places with us everywhere and everytime... can't we just say - forget it, i'm going to relax and not think a bit about 'this thing' or 'that thing'... difficult, ain't it? actually not!!! u just need to define buckets for everything. say, office is a bucket. when i come home, i just close the office bucket... meaning i tell myself not to think about it esp when it doesn't make sense to. If i keep thinking about office when i'm talking to wifo or family - do u think i would have the same emotions that they are expecting? no!!! so, i say goodbye office and home sweet home... relax and enjoy! and i'm better prepared to take on activities of home with full zeal... where it helps to have buckets for places, it helps more to have buckets for past unfortunate incidents and people... everyone goes through a rough patch in life - relatively speaking. everyone comes across 'repulsive' people which they would never ever talk to or interact with, given a choice. what we tend to do is have such incidents and people at the back of our mind... we don't realize that they are there - permanent residents in our mind and brain. and many of our actions and behavior is influenced by them... and we absolutely don't realize that!!! and if we are doing such things we are doing injustice to our present... i know, it sounds a littel absurd, but its true!!! it would be very easy for me to say that keep such events and people in their respective buckets and close them... and you would say 'boss, thats impossible'... but it really really helps... its all about making your mind and brain realize not to think about them anymore - unless i open the bucket!!! i'm not a psychology student or any maha-pundit, however, if you say one thing 10 times, u start to believe in it... having buckets is just another way to tell ourselves that - i do know but i do not require it - maybe now, maybe ever!!!
phew! its been a lil boring this time - cause i decided to write on buckets... most probably i would change the language later when the time is right!!!!
ask me more on buckets and i may not be able to help... as u urself need to understand what works best for you!!! :)
enjoy and take care!
-VK
posted by Vinod Kaulgud at 10:26 PM
1 Comments:
nice gyaan. but better than the self help mails. when gyaan comes out of a close friend, it makes a lot of sense. will start to use my 'baadli'... or is it 'baaldi' from now on.
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